Tag Archives: Love

Good Friday: Parable of the grief boulder

stoneBeing’s that this is Good Friday, I thought I’d share a parable I wrote about grief, followed by an amazing song.

Parable of the Grief Boulder

What if you had a huge boulder of grief rolling along behind you your whole life – being chased like the boulder chasing Indiana Jones?  It started when you were a little kid, in total terror running to get out of it’s way, and being crushed and bruised if you weren’t fast enough.

As you grew into a teenager, since you were growing stronger, you realized sometimes you could outrun the ball of grief. It became a game of Continue reading

March 20th is the first UN International Day Of Happiness

International Happiness Day is TODAY March 20th!  Find out more about it, and ideas on how to celebrate, here.

How can you make the world around you dance?

This 9-year-old boy, known online through his Kid President videos, is a hero in so many ways by encouraging adults and kids alike.  Here’s the back-story about this amazing kid, his family, and why his focus is on playing and having fun:


The question he asks is “What will you create today to make the world more awesome?”


How To Have a Good Day

If you need a lift, watch this short video:


Breathtakingly beautiful pictures, along with inspiring words including:  “Today is not just ‘another day’ –  it’s the only gift that you have right now, and the only appropriate response is gratefulness.”

This video explains in detail How To Have a Good Day.  Watch and enjoy.

Kindness creates kindness

RedprimroseToday was a beautiful Spring Day. Cleared out the front veggie bed and planted peas. A lot of people were out walking and visiting. A neighbor named Maria who I’ve never met asked me about my Bloody Dock, so I rattled off about it. She said “I think it’s so pretty – I had one and someone stole it!” So I offered her a healthy one of mine (they self-seed). She said she was going shopping and would pick it up on the way home. When she stopped by she had a red Primrose plant she gave me in trade! How nice was that? I put the plant in my garden and gave her the pot back so she could take her new Bloody Dock plant home with her. I think I have a new friend:)

Kindergarteners wear eye patches to make classmate feel better

Mrs. Brown, a kindergarten teacher in Florida, helped comfort a student who felt he wouldn’t fit in after an eye injury made wearing an eye patch to school inevitable.  The boy was afraid he would be made fun of and was fearful to return to school.

To help the student feel better, Mrs. Brown talked to the students in advance about the boys accident, and that he was going to be O.K. but had to temporarily wear an eye patch to protect his hurt eye.  She then made eye patches for ALL the students, and the children all tried doing their work with an eye patch, both adding to a new adventure of trying to work with one eye, as well as learning empathy. Mrs. Brown kindly created a safe place for her hurt student – and a road to empathy and learning for his classmates.  She is a wonderful example to us all that the little things DO matter.

Thanks to Jacksonville Florida TV station news4jax for this story:



What stories are you paying attention to?

The stories we pay attention to are what form our ideas of what’s possible.  The stories we pay attention to help show us what choices we have.  Sarah van Gelder discusses in this short Tedx talk  “Solutions Journalism”, or “Appreciative Journalism”:  news that focuses on what matters most, what’s possible now, and what’s working.

Check it out here:


The parable of the ice pack

Once upon a time there was a sister and her younger brother who loved to play with each other. One day when they were playing, little brother was hurt and started crying.

Mother rushed into the room.  Sister, with big eyes squeaked,  “I don’t know what happened – It wasn’t my fault! “  Mother quickly sized up the situation saying  “your brother is hurt – get an ice pack for him and bring it here now.”  While mother held and comforted her crying son, sister quickly got an ice pack and brought it to her brother.

Mother focused her attention on comforting the boy, soothing his tears, and helping him hold the icepack to the part that hurt.   Sister stood by, a tingle of fear – was she going to be in trouble? Was she going to look bad?  But the Continue reading


Good sportsmanship makes for a bigger win

This video shows great sportsmanship by Spanish runner Fernandez Anaya. Kenyan athlete Abel Mutai thought he’d already passed the finish line so he slowed down, and Fernandez caught up with him.  The fans were trying to tell Abel to keep running, but since he didn’t speak Spanish he didn’t understand.   Fernandez *could* have run past him and won the race.  Instead, he helped guide Abel to the finish line first, and then took second place himself.  Good citizenship, kindness, and doing the right thing is a better idea.

Thanks to the Huffington Post for this story.

How grandparents can grow to relate to teen grandchildren

crazyclownGrandparents love grandkids.  They carry around photos of grandbabies for bragging rights.  But what happens when those grandchildren grow up to be teenagers?  How to keep the relationship fresh between grandparents and grandkids? Continue reading

A dad’s gift lives on in his son

Tony Tolbert’s dad gave others a hand up – Tony always remembers someone in the guest bedroom who needed a place to stay.  So when Tony became a man and saw families struggling with homelessness, he called up a homeless shelter and asked if there was a homeless family who’d like to live in his fully furnished home, rent free, for a year.

The mother of 5 who was chosen was in tears.  She’d been able to bring her smaller children with her into the shelter, but not her teen son.  So not only were they homeless, but they were separated as a family.  Tony Tolbert’s Continue reading

Tapping into better health: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

I recently discovered a simple, free, do-it-yourself way to help relieve stress.  It’s called Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT and I learned about it in a book and then searched for more information online.  EFT is a powerful self-help method based on research showing that emotional trauma contributes greatly to disease. Clinical trials have shown that EFT is able to rapidly reduce the emotional impact of memories, fear, and incidents that trigger emotional distress. Once the distress is reduced or removed, the body can often rebalance itself, and accelerate physical healing. EFT uses elements of Cognitive Therapy and Exposure Therapy, and combines them with Acupressure, in the form of fingertip tapping on acupuncture points. Over 20 clinical trials published in peer-reviewed medical and psychology journals have demonstrated that EFT is effective for phobias, anxiety, depression, posttraumatic stress disorder, pain, and Continue reading

Trying for the fun of it

Toby Run

Toby loves thinking – he’s a computer nerd and problem solving type of guy.  As his parents, we’ve been trying to gently persuade him to try a variety of activities while he’s young, because you just never know what you might find interesting once you try it.  But we also realize he needs to be the person to make the final choice in his activities, especially now that he’s a teenager.

During Toby’s sophomore year of high school, he stepped outside his comfort box and went out for Continue reading

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!Blessings to you:  May life be welcomed and appreciated individually with our each inward breath.  May  we pass life’s blessings to others with our each outward breath.  May we each play a part in making the world a safer, kinder, more joyful place in 2013 and beyond.  Happy New Year to you and yours.

Sincerely, Barb Hughes and family

Bare Bones Budget: budgeting time, money, and more when under stress

We are gainfully self-employed now, but when my husband and I both lost our full time jobs back in the 1990‘s we were rather stressed.  So we revamped the way we looked at our work/business/home life.  One of the things we did was come up with what we call our Bare Bones Budget.  This isn’t just about budgeting money, but also budgeting/balancing time and the enjoyment of life.  So for those who are looking for a different approach when under stress (besides doom and panic), here’s what helped us – and we continue to follow today.

The Bare Bones Budget Mantra Continue reading

Bye bye old world thinking: an ode to the end of the world

December 21st 2012:  Old world thinking ends today.  The thinking that we as humans can keep punching the bag called air/soil/water/’the other’/nature in the nose like a bozo clown and expect it to pop back up for more of our abuse.  The old thinking/believing that humans with money, anger, and power are the Lords of the universe.  The old thinking that humans are above all else, and our wishes and will should dictate who has rights and who doesn’t.  The old thinking of believing that if we let our anger turn to love, we’ll ‘lose the game’, and Continue reading

Can our corporate grief help heal the world?

I’ve not read the actual news report.  I’ve not seen the pictures.  I don’t need to.  I feel what has happened through friends and family face book posts, have seen it today in the heavy footsteps and sad eyes of people on my walk to the post office box.  There is a corporate grief that transcends nations, language, religion, and political views. We all agree that innocent children should be safe.  We all agree our own children, the children in another state or another country – ALL children – should be safe, held, and loved. Continue reading

Sweet tradition: cookie day!

Cookie DayLooking for a holiday tradition that doesn’t involve drinking to excess, shopping into poverty, or watching TV until your eyes fall out?  Here’s all-age, interactive fun involving friends and/or family…and it ends with good times and sweet gifts for all.  My friend Sue Warner-Bean – who the tradition belongs to – tells the story in her own words:

Hi! Oh gosh yes — happy to have you share it with others. It has become a Really Big Deal for all of us, including the kids. Cookie Day started about Continue reading

Pet of the month club: animal fostering is fun!

Porcellino PigThis is a picture of Guinea Pig Porcellino (little pig in Italian) and her babies that we fostered for the Humane Society. She was pregnant when we first brought her home, and we fostered her through her pregnancy, birth, and 2 weeks afterwards so she could wean her babies.  What a lot of fun!

Some people choose to foster all animals, others choose just dogs, cats, or in our case just small rodents (rabbits, hamsters, and guinea pigs).  When you decide you want to foster, Continue reading

Easy Folk Art Reindeer project

folk art reindeerWhat a great use for scraps from  2×4’s!  My son wanted to build something, but at the time he was only a third grader, and I’m not very handy with building tools.  So we created this simple folk art project from scrap 2×4’s laying around the garage.  Using a combination of nails and screws, we attached the boards, then painted them with outdoor paint.  The sponge clown nose is attached with a nail, and the antlers are Continue reading